Tuesday, December 4, 2018

Encouraging A Sick Loved One

Are the holidays hard this year because someone you love is in the hospital? Or maybe you are the one that is sick and missing loved ones?










It was October 2014. Tim was sick. He had just been moved to Vanderbilt and diagnosed with Burkitt's Lymphoma.



Better To Miss One Holiday




Before he had gotten sick, he had gotten tickets for him and Jacob to go to a rock concert on Jacob's birthday. When the day rolled around, Tim was in the hospital and not able to go with Jacob. It broke his heart. Luckily, Taylor was home, so he went with Jacob to the concert.



Thanksgiving found Tim in the hospital for a round of chemo. Another event that Tim was going to have to miss. He talked to his doctor about either doing the treatment early or a little bit late, but the doctor told him that it was better to miss the one holiday in order to have more in the future.



Since we knew ahead of time that he was going to be in the hospital during Thanksgiving, do you know what we did? We had our Thanksgiving the weekend before.



Yes, it was still hard to go through the holiday that year without him here, but looking back on it, I am so glad we celebrated it early. We could have just skipped it, but we didn't. After all, we had a lot to be thankful for that year.










To Celebrate More In The Future 




Yes, Tim had cancer, but it was a type of cancer that could be aggressively treated and it could be cured.  I was alone, but I had people show up when I needed them. Jacob missed out on a bonding experience with his dad, but gained a bonding experience with his brother instead. Phillip and Shannon had announced that they were pregnant.



Are the holidays hard this year because someone you love is in the hospital? Or maybe you are the one that is sick and missing loved ones?




Ways To Help 



1. Call and/or text the missed family member. 



When T had to be in the hospital over Thanksgiving, we spent a lot of time on the phone. It made me feel a little bit better to hear his voice, or to receive his text messages, and it helped him not to miss me as much as well.



2. If you know, in advance, have the holiday early. 



As I mentioned above, we knew in advance, that he was going to miss Thanksgiving. So we had our big meal the weekend before. I didn't think anything of it, at the time, but looking back, I am so glad we did it that way.



3. Send goodies with the family member. 



Again, if you know in advance, and you can get ahead of the blues, put together a care package from home. It can just be little things to help the sick loved while they are in the hospital and missing you. ~ Like now, I would pack him a few of his favorite things, a book, maybe some candy and then one of my favorite blankets that he could curl up with.









Jeremiah 29:11-13 NIV  



For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord , “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.




Prayer 



Father, thank You. Thank You for being You. Thank You for being in control of my life. Father, I know that You have plans for me, plans for my wellbeing and not harm, plans that will give me hope and a future. I know that when I call out to You, Father, You will hear me; You will listen to my prayer.  I know that when I seek You with all of my heart, I will find You. Thank You so much.  In Jesus' name,  Amen.












Express Your Gratitude


God's Grace


How To Fight Christmas Blues












Are the holidays hard this year because someone you love is in the hospital?
Or maybe you are the one that is sick and missing loved ones?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.
























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