Thursday, June 14, 2018

Feel Like A Failure As A Mother

Do you have a child preparing to leave the nest? Are you starting to feel like a failure as a mother?

As your child prepares to leave the nest, you might start doubting your job as a mother. You might start questioning if he is actually ready to make this step away from you.

I know that when Phillip started talking about leaving, I had all kinds of self doubts. I started to feel like a failure as a mother. I felt like I had not done a good enough job preparing him to move away.

Of course, if I am honest, I always thought that when he moved out, he would stay close by. I had this image in my head of being able to visit him, make sure he was eating and what not. Most importantly, I would still be close enough if he ever needed me.

Then he packed up his car and moved 2 states away. If he ever needs me, he has to make do.

Now Taylor is about to load up a car and drive to Texas. He has already mentioned the possibility of not coming back once he is done with his masters work.

It is so hard watching them prepare to leave the nest. I always thought that we would be close. You know, all three boys and their families live right here in our neighborhood. They are all over here all of the time. If anybody ever needs anything, I am there.

Part of letting go is trusting that God is in control. He has plans for our children's lives. I might have this "perfect world" view of how I would like for things to be, but God knows what is best. He can accomplish His purpose easier if we allow our children to follow His guidance.

Shake the Negativity 

1. Pray.

Take all of your concerns and worries to God. He is there to listen and help.

2. Journal.

Writing is a good way to sort through your feelings. When you are done and close the book, leave those concerns in God's hands.

3. Read.

Spend some time reading a good, uplifting book; the Bible maybe.

4. Take a hot bath.

Allow yourself a 20 minute escape and take a hot bath. Let all of your negative thoughts and feelings go down the drain when you let out the water.

Jeremiah 29:11 NIV 

For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord , “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Proverbs 16:9 NIV 

In their hearts humans plan their course, but the Lord establishes their steps.

Dear Father, thank You for always being there. Thank You for being in control of our lives. Father, I must confess that I am struggling with letting go of another child. Oh, I am so thankful for the time that You have blessed me with him. Help me to remember that You know the plans that You have for him (for all of my children). You plan to help him prosper and not cause him any harm. You have plans to give him hope and a future. Help him and all of my children to follow the path that You have set before them. When they start to plan their own way, their own path, please gently guide them back where they need to be; establish their steps for them. Thank You so much. In Jesus' name, Amen.

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Do you have a child preparing to leave the nest?
Are you starting to doubt your job as a mother?
Do you have any tips that you can share?
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

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