Wednesday, April 11, 2018

Don't Be Selfish

Do you and your husband argue over household chores? Does it cause you distress if your husband doesn't clean up after himself?

And there the dishes sit. They have been sitting in the sink for 3 days now. Tim got home the other evening and prepared himself a meal, but he did not wash his dishes when he was done.

Be Humble

Okay, I could sit here with hurt feelings because now that time has gone by, more dishes have accumulated, but I will not do that. Why? Well, I need to try and consider him as more important than I am. I need to think over everything that lead to those dishes sitting in the sink.

You see, since I tend to deal with low blood sugar issues, he lets me prepare something to eat and eat it before he ever gets home. So, this allows me to have my big meal of the day as my lunch. This also means that I am not in the middle of trying to cook when everyone is getting home, the dogs are going bonkers and my stress level is through the roof.  Just easier on me all the way around.

Now, this means that once T gets home, he has to prepare something for himself if he wants to have dinner. Or I will have left overs from my lunch that he can have. Since he goes off to work every day and allows me to stay home, I can overlook a few dishes in the sink.

I do not want to be considered as selfish in his eyes or in God's eyes, for that matter. I want to help carry his burdens and not add to them, right? If I got on to him for not doing his dishes, it does make me seem selfish and my chastisement could add to stress that he may already be dealing with from work.

Consider Others First

1. Look for ways to build your husband up.

 Be a source of encouragement to him. Be his cheerleader.

2. Seek out opportunities to praise your husband in public. 

Avoid tearing him down in front of your friends, or his. Build him up.

3. Look for things that your husband does well.  

Ask God to open your eyes and reveal the best qualities of your husband to you. Once God reveals these areas, spend time letting your husband know how much you appreciate him and build him up.

Philippians 2:3 GNT 

Don't do anything from selfish ambition or from a cheap desire to boast, but be humble toward one another, always considering others better than yourselves.

Dear Father, 

Thank You for all that You do. Thank You for putting my husband in my life. I do not know where I would be without him. Father, please help me not to do anything out of selfish ambition, but instead to be humble in what I do toward my husband and always to consider him as better than myself. Father, this is an area that I know I need Your help with. I place it in Your hands and pray that Your will be done. In Jesus' name, Amen.

1 Corinthians 13:4 GNT 

Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud;

Dear Father, 

Please help me to remember that all love comes from You because You are love. I am able to show love to my husband because You first loved me. Help me to be patient and kind towards him, not jealous, conceited or proud. I want to build him up and encourage him, Father. Thank You for all that You do. In Jesus' name, Amen.

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Do you and your husband argue over household chores?
If those dishes were piling up in your sink, would it cause you distress?
How I can pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

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