Thursday, June 21, 2018

3 Reasons To Let Your Child Make Mistakes

Do you encourage your children to make decisions for themselves so they can learn from their mistakes?

As I try to prepare myself for the time that Taylor leaves for Texas, I can't help but reflect back over his childhood.

I do have to admit that all three boys have a level head on their shoulders. They are all good at making decisions and following through with them even when they have to pay consequences for bad decisions.

I remember one time in particular,  all three of them were playing with squirt guns. For some reason, they were playing with them in the house. And for added fun, they were shooting our TV with water <-- haha. Oh, I can look back on it and laugh now.

To be honest, I do not remember what their punishment was at the time, but as parents, we need to allow our children to make mistakes. When they make a mistake and then face the consequences of that mistake, it helps them to develop stronger decision making skills.

It is not easy letting them make mistakes, especially when you can see it coming down the road. If you are anything like me, you want to swoop in (mother bird to the rescue) and save them from whatever harm they may be facing.

Benefits of Making Mistakes 

1. Learn about consequences. 

When allowed to make his own decisions,  he will also learn about facing the consequences of a bad decision.

2. Learn from past mistakes. 

As she is allowed to make decisions and to learn from bad choices, she will also learn, with time and practice, from her past mistakes. It is better for her to fail under the safety of your protection than to fail out in the world on her own.

3. Develop self-confidence. 

By allowing him to make his own decisions,  it will help him to develop his self-confidence.  Try not to "fix it" for him, but allow him time to figure out what he needs to do.

Proverbs 19:21 NIV 

Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the Lord’s purpose that prevails.

Dear Father,  thank You for being in control of our lives. Thank You for blessing me with this time that I have had with my children. Father, as my children spread their wings and leave the nest, help them to remember that You are with them. If they should venture in there own direction, please gently guide them back. I trust that Your purpose for each of them will prevail. In Jesus' name, Amen.

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Do you encourage your children to make decisions for themselves so they can learn from their mistakes?
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  1. I totally agree about letting our kids make mistakes. Specially while they are in the protection of our home growing up. Helps them to make less mistakes when they get older. Thank you for sharing.

    1. Kristi, thanks for dropping by. Yes, less mistakes and hopefully with God's guidance wise decisions.

  2. I agree it's good for them to be able to learn from their mistakes and understand consequences! And loving parents guiding them through those issues will help them more than the world guiding them through. Thank you!

    1. Oh yes, it is so much better to learn under a parent's loving and watchful eye. Thank you for dropping by.


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