Wednesday, April 25, 2018

Tips On Forgiving

Do you and your husband often step on each other's toes? It is easy to say careless little comments, without thinking, that hurt the other person.

Tim is on call this week for work. This means that he has to be prepared to drop everything and give his full attention to work problems as they arise. Saturday night, he had planned things that needed tending to that kept him up until around midnight.

Shortly after he got in to bed, he got a call from Jacob letting him know that he had been in an accident and needed a ride home. Jacob is fine and so are the kids from the other car. However, this meant that Tim didn't get back to bed until 2 ish and it took him a long time to fall asleep.

All day Sunday, he had a short temper. He was so tired and felt like there was so much that he needed to remember to do. After all of our running, he was so tired and he could not think of what he wanted to eat. Then I remembered that I had saved some soup, that I cooked on Friday, just for him. I told him that he could have that. His response was that he really wanted a "good home cooked meal".

Okay, I am not going to lie, that statement was like a punch in my gut. It hurt me. To me, he had just said that my soup, which he had liked two days ago, was not a good meal.

Better To Forgive And Let It Go

He finally told me that he had something in mind that he wanted to make over the weekend, but he was so tired. I told him that was why I was trying to be helpful and suggest things that he could have. He told me he was sorry, we hugged a great big hug and moved on.

Oh, it would have been so easy to hold on to those hurt feelings. My emotions were already raw after Jacob's accident. However, it was better to forgive him and let it go.

Tips On Forgiving  

1.  Try to put yourself in your husband's shoes for a few minutes. Look at everything that lead up to the careless comment.

2.  Remember that through Jesus, you have been forgiven. That is a big one for me. It is usually the one that hits home and helps me to refocus.

3.  Remember that your husband does love you. Show him love and overlook, let go, and forgive the careless comment.

4.  Hug. It is beneficial for both of you.

Ephesians 4:32 ERV 

Be kind and loving to each other. Forgive each other the same as God forgave you through Christ.

Let's Pray:

Dear Father, 

Thank You for always being there. Thank You for loving me so much that You put my husband in my life. Father, I pray that You will help me to be loving and compassionate towards him. Whenever things happen that hurt my feelings, help me to always forgive him just as through Jesus, You have forgiven me. Thank You for all that You have done. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Don't Be Selfish

Wish You Could Change Your Husband

Do you and your husband often step on each other's toes?
It is easy to say careless little comments, without thinking, that hurt the other person.
How can I pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

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