Friday, April 27, 2018

Need To Improve Your Child's Self Esteem?

Are you your child's cheerleader? Encourage good behavior in your child and help his self esteem.

Let's work on being intentional about focusing on the positive behavior we witness in our children. As I sit here thinking about this, I am struck by just how easy it is to focus on the negativity.

Focus On The Positive 

It is oh so easy to see the flaws of someone and dwell on them. However, I really feel the need to find positive aspects to focus on. Good things that are done that, more often than not, go unnoticed. Find those good things that are being done, call attention to them, let your children know how thankful you are for whatever they have done.

Jacob is my "Messy Marvin". His room usually looks like a Tasmanian devil has just torn through the place. Whenever he comes out in to the kitchen, living room, laundry room it always looks like things have exploded after he has left the area.

See how easy it is to see someone's flaws? I do have to admit that Jacob has been "cleaning up his act". He has started reading the Bible, asking me questions pertaining to the Bible and has felt lead to clean his room. I am so proud of him. What is more important? I have been sure to tell him how proud I am of him :).

Build Up Not Down

I want to make sure to encourage him and by letting him know that I am proud of him and his efforts to clean goes a long way in that direction. Mentioning how proud I am of him or thanking him for positive actions will also help with his self esteem. I want to be heard building him up; not tearing him down. Make sense?

I do know that there will be times when you will need to correct a negative behavior. When those times arise, be sure that your correction; your guidance comes from love and not from anger.

Ways to Offer Encouragement  

1. Keep on trying. 

Let your child know that even when something does not work out like he thought it would, he can keep on trying. Like maybe your child is trying to learn the clarinet and no matter how much he practices, he feels that he is not getting any better.

2. You figured it out. 

Once your child accomplishes a task that she has struggled with, celebrate with her.

3. Thank you. 

Thank your child for something that he has done.  Maybe he helped you to do the dishes, maybe he cleaned his room; let him know that you appreciate his help.

4. I love you. 

Let your child know that she is loved.

Proverbs 3:27 ESV 

Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to do it.


Dear Father,  

Please give me new eyes to see my child (ren) the way that You see them. Please help me to look for the positive behavior and to offer encouragement whenever I find it. Father, I want my child to hear me building him up with my words, not tearing him down. Thank You for presenting this opportunity. In Jesus' name, Amen.

Don't Forget To Absorb

Lay A Firm Foundation For Your Child

Tips for the Why? Questions

Are you your child's cheerleader?
Encourage good behavior in your your child and help his self esteem.
How I can pray for you today?
If you will allow it, I will be happy to help carry your load.

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